My clients often share that they don’t like conflict, and so they try to avoid it. But when I dig a little deeper, I learn it’s because they’ve mainly experienced negative conflict. Yelling....
Perpetual People Problems Don’t Have to Get in the Way
I’ve been writing my book, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success, with my awesome co-author Eliza Waters for more than two years (if you count the time it...
Curiosity: Not All Questions Are Created Equal
Recently, an executive coaching client (let’s call him Bill) shared that meetings with his direct reports weren’t feeling effective, even though he has the courage to say what’s needed....
A Thoughtfully Fit Thanksgiving
I spoke to a client last week who was overwhelmed at the thought of Thanksgiving this year. She usually hosts family from both sides—with more than thirty people over! But this year, it’s just going...
Compassion: Speak So You Can Be Heard
It’s that time of year again… the annual discussions between families of when and where to spend the holidays. For the last ten years, my husband and I have determined our holiday travel plans with...
Courage: Say What You Need to Say
It’s not that big of a deal. It’s not worth saying anything. What’ll they think of me if I say something? These are the thoughts that would run through my head when I had something hard to say. It...
The Manager’s Dilemma: How to Have Tough Conversations
In a recent coaching session, my client Bob described a frustrating issue with one of his direct reports Eddie (both names changed to preserve confidentiality). When Eddie receives feedback or...
Having Election Day Anxiety?
Back in 2000 (what feels like a lifetime ago!) I did advance work on a presidential campaign. I moved out of my apartment, put everything in storage, and traveled full-time across the United States....
What’s Taking Up Your Bandwidth?
Like a lot of households right now, my family is online… a lot! Both my daughters are doing virtual school, and almost all my work is happening remotely. Fortunately, 98% of the time we don’t have...
One Size Doesn’t Fit All…For Dogs or Humans
Our family currently has foster dog #3. (And yes, we continue to refine our family dog alliance each time we get a new pup!) The paperwork said that Tiny was a 70-pound male who lived with...
We Never Had To Talk About This Before
I watched “Meet the Press” last weekend, and in one segment they interviewed average Americans about the first presidential debate. One man’s thoughts, “We don’t know how to have a...
I See What You Are Doing There
There are so many things I love about my colleague, Jill. But one of them is the fact that she gets me. For instance, Jill knows that I like it when my work is recognized. If I’m working hard, I...