‘Tis the season of holiday joy, traditions, and . . . people problems. Even without the shadow of COVID-19, this time of year can be difficult to navigate. What gifts are we buying and will they arrive on time? Is curbside pick-up a better option? How do I take time off when working remotely and my computer is always there? How can I make sure my Christmas morning isn’t like the one in this SNL sketch?
Recently, an executive coaching client (let’s call him Bill) shared that meetings with his direct reports weren’t feeling effective, even though he has the courage to say what’s needed. And, he feels confident he’s approaching the conversations with compassion.
“I feel good in the meeting,” he told me. “But afterwards, things seem to fall apart. The actions we agreed to don’t happen, and then I don’t know how to bring it up again. I thought we were on the same page.”
I spoke to a client last week who was overwhelmed at the thought of Thanksgiving this year. She usually hosts family from both sides—with more than thirty people over! But this year, it’s just going to be her partner and two kids.
She has no second thoughts about not having family over. While it’s hard, she knows it’s the best option in a difficult situation. So what’s the problem?