A few weeks back, I got pulled over for speeding. It was especially frustrating because I had driven the same stretch of road only hours before, and knew that they had a speed trap set. But,...
No Talking, but do you Have Time to Listen?
The other day, while in an all day training session, I got a text from my daughter (after noticing two missed calls from her) that said ‘Answer my call. PLZ.’ I replied ‘Ok. I am in a session so...
Finding Your Way to Win-Win
Part of being Thoughtfully Fit is getting really clear on what you want, from a conversation, a relationship, a job or life in general! This is not easy, as many of us don’t really take the...
Creating Balanced Relationships
by Sharon Barbour, DLCC Coach In my experience, balanced relationships have a flow of giving and receiving that requires attending to both the self and the other. Below you’ll find a couple of...
Just the Way You Are
Let's face it: we judge. Most of us judge often, looking critically at the choices and actions of others. Whether it’s what’s in their cart at the grocery store, or how they are handling their...
Goldilocks and the Three Reference Requests
Sometimes the quest for BALANCE – where you balance your wants and needs with those of the other person – is very practical. Case in point: reference requests. You want a good quality...
You Say Potato, I Say I Don’t Cook
I am not a cook. I don’t aspire to be a great cook, I don’t even enjoy watching cooking shows (and I'm shocked to learn there are actually people who do!). I am good enough at preparing nutritious...
Choose How You Show Up Now (So You Don’t Have to Apologize Later!)
I realize that I talk a lot about not trying to change other people, and focusing on change in yourself instead. Part of this is because I know we don’t have the ability to change others, and the...
How Doing Nothing Changed My Life
Of all the changes I have made to my life over the past forever, I think creating more stillness and white space in my life has been the most important. Stillness is one of the internal components...
Wait – I’m Not the Center of Your Universe?
A few weeks ago I was on my way home from San Francisco and had a 4-hour layover. This was a good chance to get caught up on emails and get some work done, so I sat down at my gate ready to get...
For Better or Worse, You Are Not Alone
If being Thoughtfully Fit® was just about your relationship with yourself, things would be so much easier! However, our lives are built on relationships so at some point we must also focus on others.
Can You Control Your Feelings?
I was facilitating my small group coaching meeting last week, and we were talking about strength. Not physical strength, but the mental strength to show up how you want. To be in control of your...