Author Jack Kornfield once wrote that “intention is the seed that creates our future.”
Those of you who’ve followed my journey for a while will know that I set an annual intention every year. It’s a practice I began when I started my business in 2013, and it helps me stay focused and deliberate.
My process for intention setting is fairly straightforward. I choose one word that sums up the “theme for the year,” so to speak. Then, in order to make my intention measurable, I break it down into 10 or so actionable items. If you’d like to know more about how I did, see this article. If you’re curious about the process I use to set my intention, watch this Thoughtfully Fit Thursday video.
Last year’s intention was playfulness. For someone like me who has historically taken herself too seriously (thanks Little Miss Perfect Pants!), this was a struggle. But I made progress – complete with blue nail polish, making Tik Toks, and driving four-wheelers!
What’s my intention for 2022?
I’m delighted to announce that my intention for 2022 is Bold. DLCC is scaling rapidly, and it’s time for me to boldly lean into this new phase of expansion. I’m also scaling up in other areas, like going on more dates this year. Decisions like these require a degree of courage and trust in myself (and my team!) which has sometimes been hard for me in the past.
Like last year, I’m sharing my intention publicly as a way to hold myself accountable. At the end of the year, I’ll let you know how I got on!
At our annual team retreat this month, we decided it’d be fun to share the entire team’s intentions this year. So I asked everyone what their individual intentions are for 2022, and I’m excited to share the results with you today.
DLCC Team Intentions for 2022
Honesty: I say what’s on my mind and heart in the moment with as much grace and care as possible.
– Sharon Barbour
Solitude: I will make more time for Stillness and will make (and keep!) more plans with just me.
– Kara Barnes
Gratitude: Being grateful for what I have, what I get to do, the people I get to love, and the life I get to live.
– Carly Bouchard
Ease: I will hold everything with a light grasp and allow life to flow more easefully.
– Megan Cain
Flexibility: I will take more time to improve flexibility in my mind with mindfulness meditation and improve flexibility in my body with hatha yoga.
– Barney Chastain
Adventure: I will embrace uncertainty with courage and a sense of wonder and adventure, both professionally and personally.
– Nancy Clark
Mindfulness: I will take time for my mental health to do yoga, meditate, and do things for myself.
– Josie Gilbert
Say it: Speak up. Take more chances. Think bigger!
– Jill Mueller
Discover: I will find out more about myself and step out of my comfort zone to do things I like to do.
– Sydney Murphy
Flow: I welcome moments of flow where I feel aligned, appreciative, and genuinely present.
– Iva Pouheleva
Learning new skills: The skills in question have been on my radar for a while. My intention is to take one new skill per month and focus on it.
– Geoff Walters
If your home is feeling out of Balance, you might be interested in the work of certified parent educator Debbie Godfrey.
Darcy Luoma (00:01):
Hello, and welcome to Thoughtfully Fit Thursdays. I am here today with a guest who I found… because okay, parenting is hard, and I was doing some Googling and I ran across Debbie Godfrey and Positive Parenting and I was mesmerized. So Debbie, thank you so much for joining me today.
Debbie Godfrey (00:24):
Thank you for having me, I really appreciate it. I’m excited to talk.
Darcy Luoma (00:27):
Yeah, I am too. I’m really excited because what you are a master and an expert at is something that I am not, and I find most of us are not because there are not classes on positive parenting. So I wonder if, just right off the bat, you can share, what is positive parenting?
Debbie Godfrey (00:49):
Well, yeah. To me, positive parenting, it’s a verb, right? It’s an active… something action that we take. And for me, it’s disciplining our kids in a way that doesn’t break their spirit. That’s the bottom line. So, how could I discipline my kids? How can I get them to do what they’re supposed to do and be the proper people they’re supposed to be without damaging their self-esteem, without diluting their self-concept? Without hurting their feelings… well, hurting their feelings is kind of a bad one. But, without diminishing their sense of self? And so many of the old forms of discipline like yelling, grounding, spanking; they’re punishment. To me, punishment is, just the word; it’s to make somebody pay for something they’ve done wrong, like a crime. And I always say, children are not criminals. They don’t need to pay for what they’ve done. Their behavior is communication. And they’re communicating, if they’re misbehaving, they’re communicating, they’re discouraged about something. And I, as a parent, can help my child find a way to become more encouraged to do more appropriate behavior and get their needs met that way, rather than through misbehavior.
Darcy Luoma (02:01):
Which is so brilliant. And I love how you say it, sort of how to help guide them to be good humans without breaking their spirit or their self confidence.
Debbie Godfrey (02:11):
Right. Right. And that’s the essence of it to me.
Darcy Luoma (02:15):
Yeah. So, yay. That’s fantastic. And so now I’m curious, how did you get into this? What’s your story?
Debbie Godfrey (02:22):
Well, the short version, because I know we have a short version day today. I was in a battered women’s shelter with my three kids. So I had a, let’s say, four, two, and one-year-old… No. Six, two, and one-year-old, and found myself in a battered women’s shelter. And in the shelter they said you can’t spank your kids. And I was like, “What? How am I going to discipline them?” And it wasn’t obvious to me at the time, but there’s a connection between… Now spanking, technically, isn’t violence but the act is a little bit violent. And so, you’re not allowed to hit your kids and I was like, “Well, what am I going to do to discipline?” And I didn’t know what to do. And so, there was one of the great little counselors in the shelter and she’s like, “Well, every time you think you need to spank one of your kids, come and let me know and I’ll help you through it.”
Debbie Godfrey (03:08):
And so, the first day I called her like 10 times. “Abby, he’s doing this and this. I know I need to spank him now,” and we’d talk about it. And after a week or two, I realized no matter what they do, I can find a different way to communicate, to redirect them, to have a better influence. And that’s where I had my first parenting class, was in the shelter. And so when I got out of there, I took other parenting classes. I love them. I started a parenting breakfast club at home with my neighbors, and that was the beginnings of it. And then at one point I took a curriculum that I really loved, and that’s what I got trained in and started my business Positive Parenting in July of 1994.
Darcy Luoma (03:44):
Debbie Godfrey (03:45):
Yeah. So, I’ve been doing this for a long time.
Darcy Luoma (03:47):
And Debbie, that is inspiring when I’m hearing you, where you’ve come from being in a shelter with three kids under six to where you are now. Wow. And talk about a silver lining. I mean, crisis happens and how you deal with it determines what happens next. It sounds like you really were able to… I mean, and you have the support, you have the resources there in the shelter to be able to rewire your brain and your, maybe your patterns, to parent in a different way.
Debbie Godfrey (04:27):
Yeah. And that’s why I loved your book so much. I was reading it, just looking at all those processes and noticing how many of them came into play for me without even knowing how many were so important and part of that process. And it was just, I love your book. I mean, I think you did such a great job encapsulating a process; so easy to understand and learn and follow. And yeah, it was very fun read. Loved it.
Darcy Luoma (04:51):
Well, thank you so… for having… thank you. That means a lot. And it’s probably one of the reasons why I was excited to reach out to you to have you is because it feels like there are a lot of parallels… with Positive Parenting and being Thoughtfully Fit.
Debbie Godfrey (05:08):
Yes. For sure.
Darcy Luoma (05:09):
And thank you for sharing your story. I’m going to now sort of take that focus from you and broaden it out. And I’m curious, what are the struggles that you see that parents face? How do you… right?
Debbie Godfrey (05:26):
Yeah. I mean, there’s a lot but essentially, parents are so busy trying to get their kids to behave right and to struggle through each day getting everything done, that they don’t stop. And another thing; I like your little process with the pause. Like, “Oh, yes.” Every parent needs to learn this little pause, think, act. I mean, this is perfect. And that’s, I think that’s where taking the positive parenting class, it gives parents more consciousness about their parenting so that they are stopping. And instead of just knee jerk reacting to situations; yelling at their kids or whatever, it’s like, “Ah. Let me take a deep breath. Let me think about why… my child’s discouraged right now. How can I help my child find a way to get through this in a better way?” And then, so it’s just taking that reactiveness out of our parenting and really being thoughtful about it, thinking through it.
Darcy Luoma (06:22):
Yeah. I mean, and it’s funny because when you gave the example of in the shelter, they, the staff there provided you a natural pause and think, right? “Anytime you want to be on autopilot and spank, pause and call me and I’ll help you think through this so that you can act more thoughtfully.”
Debbie Godfrey (06:40):
Right. Right. And yeah. Yeah, it was great. So, I think the challenges are knowing that you do have the time to do this and that you do have the energy and the ability to do this, because parents think, “I’m so overwhelmed. I’m so busy. I can’t… how can I spend extra time with my kids?” And for me it’s like, how can you not? And one of the ways that this shows up is morning routines. So, some parents are so busy in the morning, and yelling at their kids to, “Get ready, get ready. We’re going to be late. We’re going to be late.” And every day they’re late, and every day it’s conflict and it’s chaos. And my coaching, when they’re doing that, is take an extra 5 or 10 minutes in the morning, and stop everything and just sit down and play with your kids. That solves the whole morning chaos, is to just go into that eternal time, which is where children live. In their moment, they’re just being.
Debbie Godfrey (07:40):
And if we can play with them more and not be on this stress, this high stress level that we’re always on, they’ll cooperate a heck of a lot more than they do when we’re pressing, pressing, pressing, and we’re stressed. And we set the tone. Our energy sets the tone. So, I like to navigate those busy mornings with a lot of grace, a lot of deep breaths, a lot of calm presence, and that will bring the kids down as well. So role modeling, I think, is a big part of that. So, there’s a lot of struggles parents face. And connecting is a big one, and just taking the time to really do this. It’s only 20 years. It’s only part of your life, it’s not your whole life.
Darcy Luoma (08:20):
That’s right. I love that. So I mean, part of what I’m hearing when you say that is go slow to go fast.
Debbie Godfrey (08:29):
Darcy Luoma (08:29):
While it takes time to get down in five minutes and play and connect with them in the morning, taking that time, they’re actually going to be then more likely to say, “Okay, mom, I’ll put my shoes on. And yes, let’s go.” Instead of, “I don’t have time to…” Because what I’m imagining, and I’m out of that parenting phase with little ones, but I’m imagining there’s a lot of people… at least I would be thinking if I’m listening, “I don’t have an extra 5 or 10 minutes to play with them.” And that actually is sort of counterintuitive to think that way.
Debbie Godfrey (09:04):
Right. For sure. And that’s, yes. And so, you take that with any of the stressful times in your day. Maybe it’s when you get home from work, maybe it’s bedtime routine, and you ask yourself, “How can I bring more presence and more calm and more peace and more fun?” I mean, fun, play; those are the modalities of children’s learning. All this yell, “Do this, do that,” that’s not their realm. They get that imposed on them by us, but that’s not where they really thrive in learning. They thrive with fun and game and play, so bringing that into it, in your stressful moments. And just think of what it’ll do for you.
Darcy Luoma (09:39):
I know. I’m laughing, Debbie, because last night… So my daughters right now are 14 and 15, and last night I’m like, “Okay, girls, we got to talk about…” It doesn’t matter. But I was in this mode of, “We’re planning, we’re organizing, we’re talking. And can you put your phones down and just connect for a minute?” And I’m bringing this urgency, this energy. And my older daughter starts, she’s like, “Mom. Okay, but first I got to show you this new TikTok,” and she’s doing this choo-choo. And I’m like, “Josie?” Right? And instead of just taking 30 seconds to be like, “Oh my gosh, that’s so cute,” I was like, “Josie, can you just focus? Can you listen?” I could feel myself doing it. And then she, all of a sudden, goes from this playful… she’s like, “Ugh. Mom?” And now she’s matching my energy and it wasn’t good.
Debbie Godfrey (10:33):
Yeah. So those, and those moments, I mean, that’s where you get your information for next time. Now you know. Next time you want to go in with the list making and all of that stuff, it’s like, bring a little fun to it first, or follow their lead in fun or play. That’s the most effective way. And so, don’t beat yourself up, just know you have another opportunity, another time. Think, that’s the nice thing about kids; they give us plenty of opportunities.
Darcy Luoma (10:59):
Oh, is that a great positive perspective, a positive spin. Now, that’s all… You know what? You’re right, Debbie. I will have a lot more chances to practice.
Debbie Godfrey (11:09):
Darcy Luoma (11:12):
And I love that you’re just saying that give myself grace, because I really was not handling myself the way I wanted. And that’s, with Thoughtfully Fit, it’s strength. You consciously choose how you want to show up. In that moment, I was just on autopilot.
Debbie Godfrey (11:27):
Yeah. Yeah. And I think that’s the struggle of parents today, is that sense of, “I can’t do anything else. This is so needed and important, or whatever it is.”
Darcy Luoma (11:38):
Absolutely. And then also, so I want to kind of build on this. So, because we were talking beforehand about how the overlap of Positive Parenting with Thoughtfully Fit, we’ve got the practice of balance, right? And how do you balance what someone else wants and needs with what you want and need, to try to find that win-win? Last night, I wasn’t really at all interested in Josie’s wants and needs. It was like a win-lose. “Right now I want to accomplish this task.” And that’s where I’m recognizing I didn’t do this well. So, what tips do you have for how you can actually use positive parenting to bring a better sense of balance in the home?
Debbie Godfrey (12:24):
Yeah. I mean, and I love the idea that you have in the book of win-win and bringing that up, because I do teach that in the class. It’s how do you create a win-win scenario? How do you do win-win negotiation? Especially when we’re dealing with power struggles with our kids. That’s I think one of the most common times that this is super important. So, let’s say your child is supposed to take out the trash and they aren’t doing it or they haven’t done it, and you’ve gotten in this big power struggle. And maybe they’re on a TikTok or whatever they’re doing, right?
Debbie Godfrey (12:55):
And instead of blowing up you could say, “I can see that’s a win for you to stay on your phone and do all that and forget about the trash. And I want you to win, and I want to win, too. And what I need to know is, when or how are you going to make this happen? Because taking out the trash is your job and you were supposed to have it done by 8:00. It’s 8:20. What are you going to do to make this happen? And that’s what I need in order to feel like I win. So, what can you do so that this is a win-win? You can have what you want, I can have what I want.” And then you have a chat with your child. And I can imagine a conversation with your daughter of, “I realized last night I was on this and I didn’t even get to see the TikTok. Can you show it to me again?”
Darcy Luoma (13:40):
Debbie Godfrey (13:42):
“I missed it. I’m sorry.”
Darcy Luoma (13:45):
Beautiful. And the other thing I’m thinking as you’re talking, I mean, this has never even dawned on me until right now, is I could be like, “Can you make a TikTok garbage…?” Do something creative as you’re taking the garbage out. She’s super creative. And sort of bring in some playfulness into the tasks instead of the… I mean, the power struggle is real.
Debbie Godfrey (14:04):
Right. And so, this is the idea you want to bring to conflict with your children, is, “I can see that’s a win for you and I want you to win.” And when you say that to a child who’s on a position… Your daughter wasn’t really on a position, she was just in her little environment. But if you’re in a power struggle and your child is wanting or not wanting to do something, to acknowledge their position, of saying, “I can see it’s a win for you to just keep doing what you’re doing and not be responsible. And I want you to win, but I want to win, too.” And the orderly running of this house, whatever it is, that’s not happening from that child needs to be handled. And so, that’s what I need to win.
Debbie Godfrey (14:44):
And so, what happens is we often come at it from the backwards way of, “I need this to happen. The trash needs to come out,” and we’re not acknowledging their desires or their wants or their needs, and so they’re not willing to help or participate. They’re just going to dig their heels in, or they’ll acquiesce if they’re very sensitive but then they’re going to… that’s where the spirit getting broken comes in. “I’m bullied into this. You’re making me do this.” They’re not learning to do it because it’s the right thing to do, and so the consciousness isn’t there. And so, when you acknowledge them, “I can see that’s a win for you and I want you to win. And I want to win, too,” what they do immediately in their own mind when you say, “I want you to win,” they’re like, “Oh, she wants me to win. This is cool.” And they’re immediately in this relaxed place of, when they hear that next message of the parent wanting to win and the parent wants some stuff done, it’s like, “Oh, I can do that,” like they were just given something.
Debbie Godfrey (15:38):
And once a child is given something, they can then turn out and give it out, back. And this is how we teach so many things, values and everything. If you want respect from your kids, you have to give them respect. You have to give them the qualities that you want them to have. They aren’t born just knowing all of this stuff. And so, until they’ve received something, they have no way to give it back out. And so, you have to give them the qualities that you want to see in their world. So, this is how you can transmit values to them, is by giving them those very qualities that you want them to learn to give to others.
Darcy Luoma (16:17):
And I love that phrase, “And I want you to win.”
Debbie Godfrey (16:24):
Darcy Luoma (16:25):
Oh my God. That right there, right? “I can see why this is a win for you and I want you to win. And here’s what’s a win is for me. So, how do we want to move forward?” And so instead of, “You’re going to do this now, young lady,” and power struggle, it becomes more of a, “We’re in this together. Let’s figure this out.”
Debbie Godfrey (16:48):
Right. Right. Yeah, and it’s just so much more empowering and they’re so much more willing. And this doesn’t mean it’s going to solve every power struggle, but at least it’s a much better starting point. So we’re not starting from the point of adversary, we’re starting from the point of being on the same team.
Darcy Luoma (17:03):
Okay, I’m pointing you on speed dial, and if it doesn’t solve all our problems, I’m texting you at midnight. So, here’s where I want to explore; the difference between positive parenting and permissive parenting.
Debbie Godfrey (17:19):
Yeah, and that’s just why positive parenting gets a bad rap. As soon as somebody hears positive parenting they’re like, “Oh, that means just let them get away with everything.” And it’s like, no, it doesn’t. In fact, I find positive parenting to be way more work. And I call it being relentless with love, like I just am relentless with love.
Darcy Luoma (17:35):
Oh. I have to write that down.
Debbie Godfrey (17:37):
All of the ways that I teach to interact with kids, it’s very present. And so I’m very present, but in a loving, kind, firm manner. So I’m not yelling, I’m not screaming. So that’s the more authoritarian parenting, or that kind of dominance parenting, is all that really strict stuff. So, I’m not doing that. Permissive parenting is letting them get away with everything, so not having boundaries, letting them walk all over you, not respecting yourself. And I find parents respecting their own needs… and again, I’m sorry I keep referring to your book, which I know you don’t care, but-
Darcy Luoma (18:15):
I love it.
Debbie Godfrey (18:15):
But the way that you took care of yourself in those first months was so amazing. And that was the ultimate role modeling for your girls, that, “I need to take care of my needs in order to be able to take care of anything else.” And so, I mean, I think that was a huge gift, even though in the moment, of course, nobody wanted it that way. And so, that’s to me is the essence of why this is not permissive parenting. Permissive parenting just doesn’t have the boundaries, the consistency, the follow-through, and in turn, children are not safe emotionally, especially. So, these are the kids who act entitled, they’re walking all over everybody else, but inside they’re not feeling loved. They don’t feel loved, because for children, being kept safe is having boundaries, having limits.
Debbie Godfrey (19:13):
Being able to push the limits and have the limits set in a loving and firm way, that’s safety and that’s love for children. And so, if they’re able to push over all of our limits and boundaries, they have no respect for us and they have no respect for themselves, and they have no respect for other people. And that’s permissive parenting.
Darcy Luoma (19:30):
Powerful. And I remember when… and, but this is what happened to me. There were Josie’s story, when she was little and I was doing, I had hired a parenting coach, John and I. And she said, “Sometimes the kids are craving you setting boundaries because they can’t do it for themselves.” And so, when we would say, “You know what? We’re going to just do a timeout,” that’s not a punishment. They’re actually like, “Oh, thank God. It’s almost like you’re protecting me from myself because I don’t have the prefrontal cortex developed enough to make that decision, so I need you to do that for me.”
Debbie Godfrey (20:08):
Right. Yep. Yep, yep, yep. And I saw you did Parenting with Love and Logic, which are a couple of my favorite authors. Cline and Fay, I’ve actually trained with them. They’re amazing, so yeah.
Darcy Luoma (20:17):
Oh, you have?
Debbie Godfrey (20:18):
Darcy Luoma (20:18):
Debbie Godfrey (20:18):
Yeah, they’re super fun. In fact, one of them taught me the best thing I ever learned, which is pick only the battles you know you can win. I love that. I’ll never forget that. Yep. I was in a training seminar, but yeah.
Darcy Luoma (20:29):
That’s one step further from choose your battles, right?
Debbie Godfrey (20:33):
Darcy Luoma (20:33):
They actually, that’s even more telling; choose your battles that you can win.
Debbie Godfrey (20:39):
Right. Yeah. And so like it.
Darcy Luoma (20:42):
Okay. So, what about if we have people who are watching or listening who are beyond that little kid stage as well, and maybe they’re even beyond the teenage stage where I am, and their kids are out of the home. Does parenting, Positive Parenting, work with adult children?
Debbie Godfrey (21:00):
Yeah, it works with everybody because this is solid communication skills and tools that most of us never learned. And so, much of my work I’ve done, 18 years I had a contract with the county that I lived in teaching Positive Parenting for all county employees. So, all 7,000 county employees had access to my classes year round. I had an ongoing thing. And in those classes, I would say at least half, probably even more, of those parents taking those classes used it not only with their kids but in their relationships at work. So with their bosses, with their subordinates, with their coworkers, with anybody behaving like a child, which is what we encounter so often with adults, okay? So, that’s where this really comes into play. And so, yes, so many of us don’t have just basic, good communication skills and tools practically, and so we’ll use those with all of our relationships.
Debbie Godfrey (21:53):
And I did have a middle school teacher once who took my class, who had two adult children. They were 22 and 26, and they were still living at home. And she used almost everything in the class with those kids, especially the teamwork and the family team building that we do. I mean, those kind of things; setting boundaries, creating consistency and all that sort of thing. And so, as in all things, you can always learn. If you’re open to learning, you’ll always learn. And to me, this curriculum… I’m trained in 7 or 10 different parenting curriculums because I’ve taken a lot of trainings over time, like Love and Logic and Positive Discipline. And the reason that I do the one that I do is because it’s so practical. It’s all experiential exercises, so I set up exercises of, I’m the kid and you’re the parent, or I’m the parent and you’re the kid, and let’s do this the wrong way and then let’s do this a more effective way.
Debbie Godfrey (22:47):
And to me, that’s how to really learn and to how to really understand how that… to feel what it feels like. And it’s amazing because in a class, we immediately go to those feelings we felt as a child, of being overpowered or not listened to or abandoned or whatever it is. It doesn’t take much for us to absolutely be there and then be able to see, and that we can translate to our own children. And I think our experiences are the key and the gift that we have to give our children. And so, to be introspective and to really look at all of that is important.
Darcy Luoma (23:25):
And it’s interesting because if… I really am relating to what you’re saying, that we all go back to what our own experience was, and if that’s what it was, that’s all we know. And so to change the pattern, and our parents, most of them, were doing the best that they could, but when you know better, you do better. And so, I’m hearing you say part of what is powerful is taking it from the theoretical, reading about the strategies and actually practicing. And in the bones, training yourself through some tough situations so that you’re almost building that memory, that muscle memory.
Debbie Godfrey (24:05):
Yeah. And there’s actually exercises I do of recreating that… call it like a record… well, people don’t know record players anymore, but you put that needle down and there’s that groove, and you could actually change the grooves and have a new song play when you have the right tools to do that. And I’ve had some… I can’t market this way because people would never take my class if I said, you need to change you. It’s like, there’s nothing wrong with the kids. The kids are all fabulous and great. They’re all born perfect. But what parents find out after the first class that I teach, where we’re doing a lot of exercises and understanding our children and what they’re experiencing, and they come back the next week and then they’re like, “Oh, this isn’t about my kids. This is about me, isn’t it?” Yeah, I guess it is.
Darcy Luoma (24:53):
Yes. I love that. It’s like, it’s exactly 100% accurate and nobody would sign up if the [crosstalk 00:25:00] says, “Wait, I have to change? No, I’m coming to you to change-“
Debbie Godfrey (25:02):
To fix my kids.
Darcy Luoma (25:02):
“I thought it was to change my kids.” Yes. Right. Oh my gosh. I love this. And so to me, all of what you’re saying, it really, if we overly simplify it, which I know it’s not simple, but it does go back to the core. And being able in that moment, when the tension’s high or your frustrated or there’s a power struggle, to pause and to think and ask yourself some questions. How can I make this a win-win? And I wrote down, how can I be relentless with love? How can I get my kid to win? It’s not just, how can I win? How can I make this a win for them? And then be able to act thoughtfully with positive parenting techniques.
Debbie Godfrey (25:54):
Right. Right. Yep.
Darcy Luoma (25:54):
Oh. Beautiful. So, here’s where I’d like to go, is what… I’m going to put up your website here.
Debbie Godfrey (26:00):
Darcy Luoma (26:01):
Where can people find more? Because I am certain there’s going to people saying, “Wow, I need more of Debbie and more Positive Parenting.
Debbie Godfrey (26:10):
Yeah. So, the positiveparenting.com, there’s several links and one goes to the website into the classes. So, I have an online recorded class. It’s just self-directed. You can just do it in your own time, listen to the… and listen or watch. Now I have it on Zoom from the pandemic, but it’s also audio. I also have a podcast and it’s just five minutes a day. It’s the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast. There’s links there on the website to get to them on Spotify and Apple and all that stuff. So every day, every morning, you can listen to just a five-minute pep talk on positive parenting and just get your day started off with ideas for being more positive. And yeah, that’s what I’ll suggest.
Darcy Luoma (26:52):
That is great branding, right? When thinking about sports teams, and in order for them to perform, they get a pep talk. And so here, in order to help the parents perform and to be able to parent in a way that does not do damage and break somebody’s spirit, you’re giving them a morning pep talk.
Debbie Godfrey (27:09):
Yep. That’s the way to find me.
Darcy Luoma (27:14):
Well, thank you.
Debbie Godfrey (27:14):
Oh, and I’m on Instagram, too. You can come on Instagram. Yep.
Darcy Luoma (27:16):
Oh. Okay, perfect. So lots of places, and we’ll put those links in the comments here. And I just want to thank you, Debbie. I feel like we could make this three hours, and so I appreciate you just giving us so many bottom-line, powerful nuggets and ways to be able to look at, how can I show up differently if I am in a place where I’m wanting to have a better relationship with my kids and family?
Debbie Godfrey (27:46):
Darcy Luoma (27:46):
Debbie Godfrey (27:52):
And you can.
Darcy Luoma (27:53):
For anybody, [crosstalk 00:27:53].
Debbie Godfrey (27:53):
Darcy Luoma (27:53):
Wonderful. Thank you so much for joining me today, Debbie.
Debbie Godfrey (27:54):
Darcy Luoma (27:54):
And thank you everybody for being here. We’re Thoughtfully Fit Thursday. Check out Debbie. And the greatest compliment you can give is to give this a thumbs up. We will see you next week.
Core Workout: Now It’s Your Turn
I’m honored to be working with such an amazing group of people!
If you’d like to figure out your intention for 2022, try the following core workout:
- Pause: Take a moment out of your day to sit quietly with your focus on 2022.
- Think: What is your life missing at the moment? How can you develop the Strength to live more consciously? What do you want to manifest more of in the year ahead?
- Act: Write down your intention for 2022. Yes, I promise that writing it down is helpful!
And, if you’d like, send us your intention. I’d love to hear what your focus is for the year ahead (it also increases your accountability…you’re welcome!). We’ll collect the best ones and share them with you in a future article.
Here’s to an intentional 2022!
In keeping with last year’s intention of playfulness, Darcy recommends the Explorer’s Club podcast by Kate Archer Kent. It’s a great way to enjoy a moment of playfulness when you’re in the car with the kids.