Darcy Luoma Coaching and Consulting

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Two Questions to Add to Your Conversations

“Here’s …. need …. I saved a file in …. take a look and …. It’s important.”

I was so frustrated. It was my daily huddle call with my colleague Jill, and I was barely catching every other word she was saying. I didn’t know if it was my cell phone or hers, but something in our connection was not working.

Jill. You cut out again. Can you repeat that?

Let me move… Can you hear me now?

Yes! Ok. What did you say?

Take… page 5 needs….

UGH!

I stopped her again. I moved. She moved. After a few more “How about now? Can you hear me now?” we finally decided to stop and try again later.

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An Unlikely Home for Thoughtfully Fit

 
 
When I was first invited to the Denver Women’s Correctional Facility, I was excited about the opportunity to bring Thoughtfully Fit to them. But as the time got closer, I started to worry. This is a level five maximum-security prison where many of the inmates were serving life sentences, sometimes without parole. 
 
What did I know about speaking to women in prison? Would they even care about Thoughtfully Fit?
 
It Always Comes Back to Your Core
 
As I was preparing for my trip, I knew I had to practice what I preach! It was time for me to PAUSE and THINK about what I needed to make the most of this unique opportunity. I mustered my courage, spent extra time developing my presentation, and flew to Denver early so I could tour the prison the day before in order to calm my nerves and meet some of the women inmates who had organized this and invited me to speak to them.
 
The women were amazingly welcoming, and I was so glad to be able to share a couple of days with them. They cemented for me that the Thoughtfully Fit core really can help you live more intentionally – no matter where life currently finds you. 
 
 
See Behind the Scenes
 
Watch my recent Facebook live to hear all about how I got ready and what the experience was like. And if you want to see behind the scenes footage of my actual visit, check out this video that one of the male inmates videotaped and edited (he did a fantastic job!). 
 
I hope this inspires you to continue to bring Thoughtfully Fit into your life, no matter the circumstance. Thank you for being on this journey with me!

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When Judging Isn’t Helping, Put The Gavel Down

 

gavel brown on counter


I know I’m not alone when I say that Brené Brown is one of my favorite researchers and authors. One of her stories has been popping up in my head a lot lately.

Brené tells of a time when she was really frustrated by someone and it led to her wondering, “Do you think people are doing the best that they can?” Her husband’s response?

“I don’t know. I really don’t. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It keeps me out of judgment and lets me focus on what is, and not what should or could be.”

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Stop Tolerating your People Problems!

Do you have people problems? Maybe the better question is… What are your people problems?

People problems are inevitable. Whenever people come together, there are going to be different styles and priorities. That creates problems! And that takes away focus from what teams actually come together to do and what they do best. Yet teams don’t always want to talk about the people problems that are present or don’t talk about them in a productive way.

Take a look at this video where I discuss the people problems I am seeing most often right now and what you can do to talk about them.

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Time for a Team Check-Up

You might remember that my girls talked me into getting a dog shortly after safer-at-home policies began. I agreed, but on the condition that it was a foster dog. We designed our family dog alliance and spent almost four fun-filled (and slobber-filled) months with our two-year-old, 90-pound foster dog, Sirius.

It was about ten minutes after we dropped off Sirius with his forever family (after the tears were dried up) that the girls asked, “Can we get another foster dog?”

About ten days later, I agreed. Again.

Enter Samson: a two-month-old, 9-pound puppy.

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