Darcy Luoma Coaching and Consulting

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Vulnerability at Work: Liability or Asset?

You might be more connected to the world than ever, with your ever-present phone, social media feeds, and access to a bazillion YouTube videos. 

But how well are you connecting with people around you? 

In her book Rising Strong, Brene Brown says, “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”

It’s not about looking at pictures of people on a screen, it’s sharing with them in real-time, and letting them do the same. Connection requires us to be open about how we’re feeling, as well as to listen and make the other person feel heard. [Read more…]

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Read the Room

As a consultant, reading the room is really important. If I am at a team retreat and notice that everyone is walking in and sitting far away from each other with their arms crossed, I know I’m going to earn my paycheck that day. But if everyone is walking in joking around with a cup of coffee and a smile? My job is going to be much easier!

One of the most important skills for being a leader is to be able to understand what’s happening beneath the surface and help it rise to the top in a productive way.  [Read more…]

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Take your thoughtfulness to work day

A client once told me she was excited about a new hire, until the new hire showed up on the first day talking about being tired, how far away she had to park, and complaining about the weather. She instantly worried she had made a mistake – this was not the energy she wanted in her office!

What had happened to that enthusiastic, inspiring person that showed up to the interview? 
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Resolve to Think Twice

Someone snaps at you, and you snap back.

It’s so easy, it just happens. You don’t pause and think about what’s going to come out of your mouth, you just shoot it out as fast as you can. But where does that get you? Probably not anywhere very good. [Read more…]

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Triggers and defaults and habits, oh my!

by DLCC Coach Sharon Barbour

Understanding triggers

Thoughtfully Fit offers GREAT ways to strengthen our ability to be present, respond instead of react, and treat ourselves with greater kindness.  But just like eating our vegetables, even though we know what’s good for us we will still have Un-Thoughtfully-Fit moments.

You are not alone in this! We all have triggers and habitual ways of reacting to them. You may have practiced these reactions for decades, which can make it hard to behave differently. And any kind of stress will only increase our tendency to default to old habits.

For example, I’ve been a bit stressed lately and yesterday I felt repeatedly triggered by technology problems and deadlines. I was a babbling looney tunes character (think Tazmanian Devil) whenever one or both of my teenagers needed my attention in the midst of it all. Happily, that is not my usual way with them but when I’m super stressed, yikes! I could see myself being a nut and I could surely feel it, but I  just couldn’t change it in the moment. [Read more…]

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