Someone snaps at you, and you snap back.
It’s so easy, it just happens. You don’t pause and think about what’s going to come out of your mouth, you just shoot it out as fast as you can. But where does that get you? Probably not anywhere very good. [Read more…]
by DLCC Coach Sharon Barbour
Thoughtfully Fit offers GREAT ways to strengthen our ability to be present, respond instead of react, and treat ourselves with greater kindness. But just like eating our vegetables, even though we know what’s good for us we will still have Un-Thoughtfully-Fit moments.
You are not alone in this! We all have triggers and habitual ways of reacting to them. You may have practiced these reactions for decades, which can make it hard to behave differently. And any kind of stress will only increase our tendency to default to old habits.
For example, I’ve been a bit stressed lately and yesterday I felt repeatedly triggered by technology problems and deadlines. I was a babbling looney tunes character (think Tazmanian Devil) whenever one or both of my teenagers needed my attention in the midst of it all. Happily, that is not my usual way with them but when I’m super stressed, yikes! I could see myself being a nut and I could surely feel it, but I just couldn’t change it in the moment. [Read more…]
When I talk with my clients about what in their life needs to change, I cannot tell you how many times the answer is other people! We are all sure that if other people would just go ahead and behave the way WE think they should, life would be so much better. And it likely would!
But, I am here with some bad news: people don’t change just because you want them to. And sitting around wishing they would be different, or even better telling everyone else all about it, wastes a LOT of energy. [Read more…]
