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November 3, 2020 By Darcy Luoma

The Manager’s Dilemma: How to Have Tough Conversations

Having a Tough Conversation

In a recent coaching session, my client Bob described a frustrating issue with one of his direct reports Eddie (both names changed to preserve confidentiality). When Eddie receives feedback or people disagree with him, he gets defensive. He stops listening to what’s being said and starts to explain why he did what he did.

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Filed Under: Communication, Feedback, Thoughtfully Fit Tagged With: active listening, balance, balanced conversations, communication, thoughtfully fit

October 13, 2020 By Darcy Luoma

One Size Doesn’t Fit All…For Dogs or Humans

One Size doesn't Fit All

Our family currently has foster dog #3. (And yes, we continue to refine our family dog alliance each time we get a new pup!) The paperwork said that Tiny was a 70-pound male who lived with six dogs. However, she turned out to be a 50-pound female who tolerates other dogs. 

But she’s an absolute sweetheart! Mellow and calm, she’s completely content to sit outside by herself watching the squirrels for hours at a time. Our fostering experience with Tiny is completely different than with Sirius (who was the polar opposite of calm—we didn’t see squirrels in our backyard his entire stay with us) and Samson (who whimpered anytime we were more than three feet away from him).

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Filed Under: Flexibility, Thoughtfully Fit, Training Tagged With: active listening, addressing differences, balance, management style, managing people, support, thoughtful listening, thoughtfully fit

October 6, 2020 By Darcy Luoma

We Never Had To Talk About This Before

I watched “Meet the Press” last weekend, and in one segment they interviewed average Americans about the first presidential debate. One man’s thoughts, “We don’t know how to have a conversation anymore.”

I don’t disagree. There are lots of reasons for this in 2020. Let’s look at a few…

  1. There is polarization. Opinions are strong. Leaders talk over each other. There’s not a lot of listening going on. The desire to be understood is stronger than the desire to understand others or find a resolution. (I admit I’m guilty of this on certain social issues when I disagree with every fiber of my being.) 
  2. This is all new. People are dealing with circumstances they’ve never experienced before. A coaching client recently said work-life balance doesn’t exist anymore—everything’s just blurred together. Another client said they never imagined needing more contact with co-workers because they’re feeling so isolated at home. 
  3. Uncertainty creates fear. Nobody knows when the pandemic will end, the economy will improve, or the outcome of the election. When people operate from a place of fear or anxiety, fuses can be short. Conversations between even the closest colleagues can be strained. And combining fear or anxiety with relationships that are already low on trust? Well, that’s where things can go downhill exponentially fast.

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Filed Under: Balance, Coaching, Endurance, Life Coaching, Media, Stillness, Thoughtfully Fit Tagged With: active listening, balance, boundaries, coach yourself, personal develeopment, thoughtfully fit

June 30, 2020 By Darcy Luoma

Now is the Time for Listening

I recently presented a virtual training on coaching skills for managers. One of the activities focused on listening. For two minutes, the manager just had to listen to their partner and then repeat back what they heard. Sounds easy, right? 

Well, there is one comment I hear every time I do this activity. Can you guess what it is?

“It was so nice to be able to talk and just be heard.”

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Filed Under: Balance, Build Your Core, Coaching, Endurance, Life Coaching, Speaking, Thoughtfully Fit Tagged With: accept others, active listening, balance, coach yourself, endurance, personal develeopment, self awareness, stillness, thoughtfully fit

June 9, 2020 By Darcy Luoma

Questions are Often the Answer

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I’ve been coaching business owners, executives, and managers for almost twenty years now. In the last few weeks, there’s been a common theme with nearly every coaching client.

I’m not sure what I should do.

What should I do about reopening, social distancing, and overall safety? What should I do to support my employees and colleagues who are hurting? What can I do about the injustice that I see in my community? Should I send my kids back to daycare or summer camps now that restrictions are lifting?

People don’t want to do the wrong thing. They don’t want to say the wrong thing.

No answers. Just questions.

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Filed Under: Balance, Build Your Core, Endurance, Stillness, Strength, Thoughtfully Fit Tagged With: accept others, active listening, growth mindset, personal develeopment, relationships, speaking truth, thoughtful questions, thoughtfully fit, work life balance

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