When someone tells you about some challenge they are having, what do you do? Do you feel the need to fix it? Empathize? Chime in? And when you do this, does the other person ever get mad at you? What’s that’s all about?! [Read more…]
Thoughtfully Fit Managers Don’t Solve Problems
One of my favorite things about coaching is that it holds YOU as the expert in your own life. If you want someone to tell you what to do, do NOT hire a coach (not a good one at least!). Because in coaching, the goal is to ask questions, and get you thinking about what you want and how to get there. A coach doesn’t make the decisions for you, but helps you figure out how to make your own decisions. However, when I teach managers how to use coaching skills to empower employees, I often get push back. “Isn’t my job to provide the answers and give advice?” Well, yes….and no. [Read more…]
No talking, but do you have time to listen?
The other day, while in an all day training session, I got a text from my daughter (after noticing two missed calls from her) that said ‘Answer my call. PLZ.’ I replied ‘Ok. I am in a session so can’t talk.’ Her reply? ‘Oh ok can u listen?’ [Read more…]
Creating Balanced Relationships
by Sharon Barbour, DLCC Coach
In my experience, balanced relationships have a flow of giving and receiving that requires attending to both the self and the other. Below you’ll find a couple of actions that can help keep day-to-day relations humming along. I also offer several practices that can shift your relationship with yourself as well as with others. [Read more…]