Wouldn’t it be nice if everyone in our lives gave us a how-to manual for themselves? The guide could tell us everything about what they like to do, how they work best, what some of their weaknesses are, and what behaviors set them off.
Just think about how much miscommunication could be avoided, not to mention the joy that would come from spending your life being treated just the way you want. [Read more…]
This summer I went to family camp with my daughters for our tenth year in a row. I love family camp, but I don’t do it like most people. Whereas my daughters (and many grownups) love to do all kinds of activities all day and night, I like to take the week to really unplug and relax. I purposely pick the last cabin in the row so I can safely sit out front by the lake and read without a million people walking by wanting to chat. And although I enjoy the group meals and love swimming and having campfires with the awesome people there, I really cherish the alone time to recharge my batteries. [Read more…]
Now that I have confessed all the things that make me behave less than admirably, hopefully you’re feeling better knowing that you are not alone if you aren’t Thoughtfully Fit all the time!
All this self awareness is hard work, and with today’s hectic schedules staying calm is harder than ever. We all get it not quite right sometimes, and that’s life. [Read more…]
by DLCC Coach Sharon Barbour
Thoughtfully Fit offers GREAT ways to strengthen our ability to be present, respond instead of react, and treat ourselves with greater kindness. But just like eating our vegetables, even though we know what’s good for us we will still have Un-Thoughtfully-Fit moments.
You are not alone in this! We all have triggers and habitual ways of reacting to them. You may have practiced these reactions for decades, which can make it hard to behave differently. And any kind of stress will only increase our tendency to default to old habits.
For example, I’ve been a bit stressed lately and yesterday I felt repeatedly triggered by technology problems and deadlines. I was a babbling looney tunes character (think Tazmanian Devil) whenever one or both of my teenagers needed my attention in the midst of it all. Happily, that is not my usual way with them but when I’m super stressed, yikes! I could see myself being a nut and I could surely feel it, but I just couldn’t change it in the moment. [Read more…]
I think one of the hardest things about acting in ways that are not especially thoughtful is that it often brings more bad behavior in return. Let’s face it, humans are sensitive beings. We care a lot about how people talk to us, and we are a little too good at getting our feelings hurt. I have bad news – you are probably hurting others without realizing it too! And the way we behave can have a big impact on how people react. [Read more…]
