‘Tis the season of holiday joy, traditions, and . . . people problems. Even without the shadow of COVID-19, this time of year can be difficult to navigate. What gifts are we buying and will they arrive on time? Is curbside pick-up a better option? How do I take time off when working remotely and my computer is always there? How can I make sure my Christmas morning isn’t like the one in this SNL sketch?
I’ve been writing my book, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success, for more than two years (if you count the time it was rolling around in my head, round it up to five). However, over the last few weeks, I’ve been in what my team has affectionately called “book mode.”
Recently, an executive coaching client (let’s call him Bill) shared that meetings with his direct reports weren’t feeling effective, even though he has the courage to say what’s needed. And, he feels confident he’s approaching the conversations with compassion.
“I feel good in the meeting,” he told me. “But afterwards, things seem to fall apart. The actions we agreed to don’t happen, and then I don’t know how to bring it up again. I thought we were on the same page.”
I spoke to a client last week who was overwhelmed at the thought of Thanksgiving this year. She usually hosts family from both sides—with more than thirty people over! But this year, it’s just going to be her partner and two kids.
She has no second thoughts about not having family over. While it’s hard, she knows it’s the best option in a difficult situation. So what’s the problem?
By: Jill Mueller
It’s that time of year again… the annual discussions between families of when and where to spend the holidays. For the last ten years, my husband and I have determined our holiday travel plans with our parents with the same precision necessary to build a house of cards:
- In order to see my brother and my husband’s brothers, I check in with my sisters-in-law to find out when they’re celebrating with their families in order to see if we can get alignment on both sides of the family.
- We also factor in when we can see Grandma, my two cousins, my husband’s 36 cousins, and all the aunts and uncles.
- To complicate matters, there are three hours between my family and my husband’s family—in opposite directions from where we live. Just close enough that we can see both families in one day. Just far enough to be exhausting!
The conversations this year have been more stressful because of coronavirus. How do we figure out when to gather for the holidays—or whether to even get together at all? Because, like many families, we all span the spectrum of how well we social distance and how strict we are on wearing masks.