It’s not that big of a deal.
It’s not worth saying anything.
What’ll they think of me if I say something?
These are the thoughts that would run through my head when I had something hard to say. It might’ve been something small, like telling a client I’d rather not go out for sushi (remember the days when we could go out to eat!). Or something bigger, like when a colleague wasn’t listening to me and I felt disrespected.
Rather than clearly state my needs or opinion, these thoughts would take over. Just say you aren’t hungry if you don’t like what’s on the menu. It’s not worth offering an idea when everyone else has already agreed with this plan. He already seems to not like me… what’ll he think if I make a fuss?
So I didn’t say anything. The impact? Frustration and resentment. And lots of time spent thinking about all the things I’d say… if only I had the courage. Can you relate?